When the transmitter is idle you can quickly find the TX signals with a multimeter the + will indicate + in relation to ground -, - etc. the receive lines will both be at ground potential.
I also have a box I put together with a male and female DB-25 using a couple of 10 segment bar graphs 2 segments per line 1 for +, 1 for -, this is a big help (I never bothered making one for a DB-9 because it's easy with a multimeter.
Another trick is to use an old laptop to monitor the traffic. The laptop's RS-232 RX line you connect to the 485 (or 422) negative signal (ignore the positive).
Just take the shells off the interconnecting cable and touch the laptops ground and RX to the appropriate pins or bare a small section of wire.
You will see the data first of all as a bunch of garbage characters then by changing the laptops Baud rate etc you can quickly determine the correct settings.
The laptop will also act as a transmitter.
Try it out with a working system so you get familiar first.
Hope this helps